10 Ways To Handle Difficult Discussions

Some people are very good at expressing themselves to others in a positive way. Others find it hard to tell someone something is bothering them without being upset. Handling difficult discussions can be explosive if not handled in the correct way. Here are 10 ways to handle difficult discussions to ensure a better outcome.

1) Wait to speak to the person until you have calmed down. One of the easiest ways to blow things into a bigger issue is by having the conversation when one or both of you is mad. Being hurt, disappointed or upset can channel feelings, but when you are angry or mad you can say things you didn't want to come out.

2) Focus on the main reason for the issue. When you know exactly why something was done it is easier to address the topic without going on and on about things that don't matter.

3) Have a pre-discussion with yourself. Try to say what you want to say out loud, before speaking with the person you want to discuss the issue with. This way you can determine if you are coming off aggressive.

4) Channel your emotions to the topic. You may cry, raise your voice or show different emotions, but make sure the person knows you are mad at the situation and not them. If you are mad at them let them know exactly why.

5) Tell them what you would like to happen in the future. When addressing someone let them know what you expected and why you're upset and what you would like to happen in the future.

6) Tell them everything. Don't tell them half of the reason and still walk away mad. When you are clearing the air tell them every aspect of your feelings and why you are upset.

7) Let them know what will happen if it happens again. When you tell people you're upset and they are understanding, let them know that if it happens again what you will be forced to do. You may let them know you will have to cut them off, limit your communications, etc.

8) Apologies for your faults. Sometimes you may not know that you have caused some type of backlash, or issue. If this is the case and they let you know of a similar situation, apologise and let them know you too will work on your actions.

9) Try not to leave angry. After the conversation, leaving angry will not solve the issue. If you can't come to a conclusion during the first meeting try to arrange another one.

10) Never feel as if you are forced to decide on something you don't agree with. If you are having a discussion and the outcome isn't something you agree to then make sure you address it then. Don't leave knowing you are not in agreement with the results.

At some point in your life you will have difficult situations. You will have to face them and discuss them with others. No one is perfect and we all let our emotions get the best of us. The best thing to do is clarify the purpose of people's actions. If they love and respect you, they will appreciate the conversation and move forward with a healthy, happy relationship. If not, then you may have to take other actions to ensure your happiness. So happy to share this with you loving folks. Keep loving & living.