How Do You Build A New Relationship If Previous Ones Were Built On Lies?

According to the Webster’s dictionary a liar is considered someone who tells lies or is deceitful. When a person tells you lies you tend to discount the things they tell you and feel as if they are hiding something. When you have a companion or friend with whom you have a romantic or sexual relationship you expect truth. So if a person has been in previous relationships and all have ended because of lies and deceitfulness how can they trust the next person they enter into a relationship with, especially when they see the same signs?

Should there be expectations right away? Should you start over and wipe the slate clean? Is it fair to judge the current relationship based on previous experiences?

To answer these questions you must have a clear mind and heart. It is easy to transition into a new relationship with old baggage, but it isn't fair to the person who just opened your relationship door. Yes, there should be expectations right away of truth and honestly, however; if the new person hasn't given you any reason to doubt them, then don't.

Yes, you should wipe the slate clean when starting a new relationship. Only you know when you're ready to open up and continue dating. If you're healing and hurting it isn't fair to start a new relationship. That person isn't required to heal you or fix any prior baggage issues.

It is actually fair to judge the relationship based on previous ones, BUT only to get a clear view of your future. If you see signs in your current relationship that caused hurt or pain in a previous one, you can address those issues immediately and move forward. You can't however, blame the current person for your pain from the previous relationships.

If you don’t learn from your previous experiences you will keep making the same mistakes. If a man/woman is showing you signs of cheating, lying, and/or both and you don’t take the time to reflect on what you have been through before you will go through the same thing and waste your time. Just remember that signs and facts are different. Only you can determine if you're in the right relationship.

Every relationship should start from scratch and you can’t hold your past errors or failed relationships against the new person you engage with. If you always expect something negative, then you will never be happy. Just know that you are the judge and jury of your love and relationships. You determine what is best for you. If you are genuinely happy then work on the little things. If you can't move past a previous error, don't waste either of your time and find that someone you've longed to love. So happy to share this with you loving folks. Keep loving & living.

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