Don't Tell What You Don't Want Others To Know

It's funny how we get mad at people for "telling our business" when we were the first ones to tell. How can you tell someone something and say "don't tell anyone" when you, yourself are breaking that very promise to yourself. 60% of the people we tell our secrets to can't help us and the other 20% don't care to hear about it. Why vent and tell people things we can't even keep to ourselves, then get mad when they tell someone else? It's simple, learn to trust yourself enough to not speak on private matters, unless that person is there to help you.

Friends are usually the first to tell your private matter to others. Not to degrade you, but for advice, to use it to prove a point, or to convince themselves they should stay out of it. When you divulge your private affairs to them, you have included them in your process of healing and therefore, they are more likely to mention it to someone else.

Family will listen with the intention to give you good advice, but typically they are going through their own battles they can't fix. So they could care less after the conversation is over to help you.

Tell your problems to people that can help and that care. This will eliminate a lot of slander, backlash, and hurt. We tend to tell people because we want to get it off our chest, but how many times have you done this only to regret it as soon as you say it or after you hear they have told someone else? It's a cycle that will continue to repeat itself until you change your actions first.

Not everyone wants to help you, and not everyone is against you. People just have their own issues to deal with. And if you are the type of person that vents, but doesn't take action soon people will just listen just to tell others your story. The goal is progress, and you can't do that without believing in yourself and finding actual help. The way to change is to grow and the way to grow is with progress. Start today, by allowing yourself to keep things private, unless you know the person you are telling is going to help you solve the issue. Grow, live, and change the world. Keep growing and inspiring.

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