Loving Yourself Enough To Change
- Stacy J
- Sep 30, 2021
- 3 min read
Most of my love and relationship blog posts are about building relationships between yourself and others. This blog is going to dig a little deeper and discuss loving yourself enough to change, which will discuss depression.
There are more people in the world with depression than you may even understand. Rich, famous, single, married, popular, un-popular, etc. All people deal with it. One of the people that always stick in my mind is Kate Spade. One reason being we both went to ASU for Journalism and the other because she created her own purse line and became very successful, but was till found dead in her New York apartment in 2018 as an apparent suicide.
When we feel like something is missing for too long we can get depressed. There are no rules to depression, but there are stages. The stages are grief, denial, anger, bargaining, acceptance. The ones who get through to acceptance can move on and live life to the fullest. The issue is not everyone can get to that stage. They get stuck in denial, anger, or bargaining. Some move in between two stages instead of moving forward. I am no therapist so I can't tell you how to move through depression, but I can give you reasons to love yourself enough to change.
When you are depressed people around you know it. They can sense it. Some can put on a good show, but the energy you give is still sad and gloomy. When you start feeling down or depressed you have to tell yourself that you are worth more. You're life is worth more. The people you are around are worth more. Learn to love yourself enough to grow and change.
When you're alone thinking of the things that make you sad, you have to remember that you're not alone. There are so many people who have dealt with the same issue. Know that you are the only person who can love yourself through this and change. It is going to be hard, but you have to figure it out.
When you think about death. Think about the people you will leave behind, who will have to go through every day without you and what they will go through. You're not supposed to live for someone else, but you're not supposed to die for anyone else either. Learn to love yourself through the pain.
When going through grief take the time to grieve. There is no time limit, but understand you are supposed to love yourself enough to know when the grief is becoming harmful to you. When going through denial your mind will transform as if you can't believe certain things actually happened. Just know that you are loved by family and friends even if they are busy living their lives. When you get to the anger stage learn to direct your anger into something, like sport, working out, etc. Don't direct it towards people that have no idea why you're really angry. To be honest they can't help your anger. You have to love yourself enough to know that it's okay to be angry but you will use that to grow. When you get to the bargaining stage you will ask questions about why you're in the position you're in, why not you............ and the list goes on. Know this.......for some devined reason you were left to do something. That could be help someone, love someone, leave a legacy, inspire someone, make someone laugh, make someone smile, etc. There is more for you. Love yourself enough to know that. Once you can happily say that you've accepted what ever made you feel that way and you want to control it then you know you love yourself.
Again, there is no time limit. Some people can be depressed for days, months, years, etc. There are many things that trigger depression. It could be a song on the radio you shared with your best friend who is no longer here. It could be a smell your spouse use to wear and they're no longer around. No matter the reason, know that loving yourself enough to change and be happy and fulfilled is going to create the life you want. I hope that this has helped someone. At a few points in my life I have had issues with depression, not that anyone knew it, but I told myself I was powerful, amazing and beautiful and I deserved to live without regret.
So happy to share this with you loving folks. Keep loving & living.
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